Sex / Sexuality
Sex and sexuality are ordinary parts of being human. Some will say sex and sexuality are extraordinary parts of being human! Sex and sexuality are also routinely sublimated, mediated, and “policed” by cultural, political, social and religious norms. Technology has added its own layer of comparison, let alone a myriad of reasons for feeling sexual dissatisfaction. Making time for a direct conversation is not indulgent; it treats a central part of human experience as worth discussing.
People arrive with anxiety about sex, uncertainty about orientation, conflict about desire, difficulty with function, low or seemingly uncontrollable sexual drive. Very often they have never said anything regarding sex out loud. Shame, guilt or moral conflict can silence the individual — even with close friends or a loving partner. Medical and clinical professionals sometimes steer around this set of topics, too, unless they happen to be comfortable with the wide range of what people actually do and feel sexually.
Working With a Certified Sex Therapist in Los Angeles
Sexuality is treated as an integrated part of relational and individual therapeutic work.
Credentials behind the work
Michael Nee is a certified sex therapist in Los Angeles, an annual member of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) since 2021 and of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality (SSSS) since 2020, and began a PhD in sexology in 2021. Sexuality is treated as an integrated part of relational and individual therapeutic work. After all, human beings possess neurological, biological, hormonal systems designed for experiencing sexual pleasure.
What can be discussed here
Desire discrepancy. Orientation and identity questions. Sexual function, including erectile difficulty and sexual pain. Compulsive or out-of-control sexual behavior. Fantasy, masturbation and the guilt attached to both. Kink. Consensual non-monogamy — without a pathological framework or bias. Sexuality after illness, medication changes, childbirth or aging. Recovery of intimacy or trust after infidelity.
For work with both partners in the room, see sex therapy for couples. For broader relationship work, see couples therapy.
Getting started
Consultations are free and run 15 to 40 minutes. Call (310) 927-1755, email michael@michaelneetherapy.com, or use the contact page. The office is at 13101 W. Washington Boulevard, Suite 454, Los Angeles, CA 90066, in Mar Vista near the Culver City, Marina Del Rey, and Venice. Telehealth is available anywhere in California.