Sex and Sexuality Therapy in Los Angeles
Sex and sexuality are perfectly natural. It just so happens that they are often sublimated, mediated, augmented and subjugated by cultural, political, social and religious norms. Technological advancements can contribute to potentially unrelenting dissatisfaction. Making time for open dialogue respects this vital aspect of our human experience.
Whether anxiety about sex, uncertainty about sexual orientation, or conflicted about sexual desire, people can feel isolated and unable to talk with anyone about questions and concerns related to sex and sexuality. Impotence, lack of drive, or a seemingly out of control sexual drive, sex may seem too dangerous to discuss with family, friends, or clergy. Shame, guilt, or moral dilemmas can silence discussion of sexual reproduction or the pleasures associated with masturbation and our sexual fantasies, even with supportive friends or romantic partners. To make matters worse, medical or clinical professionals – with our biological and emotional health in mind – may shy away from the topics of sex and sexuality unless comfortable themselves with a wide range of options, information, knowledge and experience.
Certified as a sex therapist and a member of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, & Therapists (AASECT) and the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality (SSSS), knowledge of best practices for how to integrate sexuality into relational discussions is a welcome set of topics.
Working With a Certified Sex Therapist in Los Angeles
Sex and sexuality are ordinary parts of being human. They are also routinely sublimated, mediated, and policed by cultural, political, social and religious norms, and technology has added its own layer of comparison and dissatisfaction. Making room for a direct conversation is not indulgent; it treats a central part of experience as worth discussing.
People arrive with anxiety about sex, uncertainty about orientation, conflict about desire, difficulty with function, low or seemingly uncontrollable drive. Very often they have never said any of it out loud. Shame, guilt or moral conflict can silence the subject even with close friends or a partner. Medical and clinical professionals sometimes steer around it too, unless they happen to be comfortable with the range of what people actually do and feel.
Credentials behind the work
Michael Nee is a certified sex therapist in Los Angeles, an annual member of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) since 2021 and of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality (SSSS) since 2020, and began a PhD in sexology in 2021. Sexuality is treated as an integrated part of relational and individual work rather than a separate specialty bolted on.
What can be discussed here
Desire discrepancy. Orientation and identity questions. Sexual function, including erectile difficulty and pain. Compulsive or out-of-control sexual behaviour. Fantasy, masturbation and the guilt attached to both. Kink and consensual non-monogamy without a pathology frame. Sexuality after illness, medication changes, childbirth or ageing. Recovery of intimacy after infidelity.
For work with both partners in the room, see sex therapy for couples. For broader relationship work, see couples therapy.
Getting started
Consultations are free and run 15 to 40 minutes. Call (310) 927-1755, email michael@michaelneetherapy.com, or use the contact page. The office is at 13101 W. Washington Boulevard, Suite 454, Los Angeles, CA 90066, in Mar Vista near the Culver City line, and telehealth is available anywhere in California.